Tuesday, October 11, 2005

solo flight(i do not mean flying)

***************WARNING*******************WARNING************************

if u are not comfortable with your sexuality, then do not read this post. you have been warned. in reality... i still have not made up my mind if i am going to post this. it is not because i am not comfortable with the topic. this is kind of those topics you need to approach a friend or close friends with in a warm and loving atmosphere. ok...enough of the dr. phil crap.

as some of you may be aware, i am currently biking into work. this is a good thing. i am feeling happier and healthier. i have lost some weight, but i am not about to step on a scale. it may only damper my spirit. some of the positive results of me riding my bike is that my spirits are high. i am really happy most of the time. i have more energy for things. i am cleaning more and not being grumpy about it. (bad habit, being grumpy, i passed on to my kids...particularly my daughter). my back does not hurt. my knees do not hurt. there are a lot of pains that have disappeared.

another positive that can be a positive and a negative are my urges. any health book will tell you this is normal. it is one of the positive side affects of exercise. well...what is the problem? rt? your are a married man? the problem is that sometimes we are taken in very different directions in terms of our schedules. so being in the same bed on certain nights are difficult. mrs. santiago works the grave yard shift. let us not bring in the fact that she is also taking classes for nursing. she is quite the busy woman. by the way, this is not by any means a complain. we are all very busy individuals.

the problem is what to do with these urges. i no longer do solo flights. i need to have my co-pilot. it is just more enjoyable this way. when you were young and bold this would satisfy the necessity. now...not so much. i have talked to a few individuals about this before and i have read about this in various articles, mainlyMaxim. i know, i know. what kind of source is that? i will have you know they have some really good articles. i believe one was about solo flights and the frequency. some of the statistics sounded a little exxagerated. well...at any point this is the problem i face. i am no longer doing solo flights. there are a great number of reasons for why not. maybe at a later date i will express my concerns. part of it is i no longer feel the need for it. i need something more. i will leave it at that.

why the confessional? i am not really sure. it was something that is on my mind. i would love to reach a point in time where we can discuss anything. who is the "we" refereing to? i do not know. it could be anyone. it could be a friend. it could be a stranger. ok, maybe not a stranger, but just close friends. although, i have already had my different discussions with some of those friends. you know...they were not judgemental or anything. they were cool open discussion. kudo's to my friends.

here is final note before i part...it makes me a little sad that i do not have some of this stuff written down in some notebook. i think i will have to get myself a notebook. i mean actual paper and pen or pencil. pencil so we can erase.

6 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ok, call me naive but is "solo flight" a euphamism for masturbation?

12:50 PM  
Blogger sonrisa morena said...

santiago maybe you and your wife can schedule...i know that sounds too, don't even have the words for it but scheduling something sounds good since she has such a hectic schedule. i'm just rambling...

3:28 PM  
Blogger Joel said...

scheduling isn't very romantic or spontaneous but at this point you have no other options.
Love the "solo flight" euphemism by the way!

6:46 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

perhaps sneaking away for quick encounters, con la sra. santiago, between scheduled stuff may help keep the spontanaity. suerte.

11:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with all of the above. I think "scheduling' but not really scheduling is your best bet. Let it just happen. You have your urges, and like I mentioned one time with a friend. Sometimes you're just at work at your cubicle and you feel like you just want to hump your desk like a dog. This illicited a huge laughter with my friend Joel, and then he stopped laughing. I apologized thinking that he was offended until he said, "shit, man, you're so right."

So what do you do? You gotta take care of it especially if you got Mrs. Wifey. If Mrs. Wifey is busy, much like my fiancee is, just let it be natural and let it happen. One night, it will and you'll be satisifed...at least for the time being. You know, you're right tough, solo flights for me, ya como-que no. Lots of luck amigo.

8:24 PM  
Blogger Santiago said...

thank you, fellow bloggers. i never dreamed of getting this kind of response.

anonymous - yes, solo flight does mean masturbation. it is one of those male things that we do and we don't know why. even if we are in a committed relationship or married.

sonrisa - i always hated the idea of scheduling sex. it is like, "hey can u pencil me in for about 9:45- 10:45. Thanks". it is to cold.

dcnational - thank you for being the voice of reason. it is not romantic or spontaneous. it is more cold and mechanical. i do not want it to get to that point.

cracked chancla - we try to do that sometimes and it works for the most part. it is just those weeks that nothing seems to fly. gracias.

emc - it really is complicated to do the scheduling, but not really scheduling part of it. i just have to be patient. you are completely, right. the flesh is weak. it gives in to its urges. i think it has a mind of it own.

9:28 AM  

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